Book Review ~ Warrior’s Woman by Johanna Lindsey

Mom-me time book club review:

Warrior’s Woman by Johanna Lindsey

Back in the day when I was a young pre-wife, pre-baby woman, I used to read romance novels. The trashy, historical kind. It was my only escape when I was in university studying English Literature and was knee-deep in the great american novel or Shakespeare or… Gone with the Wind. Seriously, I wrote a paper on GWTW once. I don’t remember what grade I got on it but I’m sure it wasn’t good. To get away from the heaviness of all the books I had to read for school, reading brain candy was my way of lightening the load. Warrior’s Woman was one of my favourites, it combined trashy historical romance with futuristic sci-fi, a perfect combo.

At least it was, eleventy-billion years ago when I first read it. I thought it was the bestest romance novel EVAR! Ok, well not ever, but it was definitely on my top 10. At the time I loved it, couldn’t put it down. Well the years have moved and apparently my taste for literature has changed because this book…. was… just… terrible.

Or at least It started off that way. Once I got past the writing which is, to say the least, a little more primary that I’ve become accustomed to, and the storyline which left me saying “what are you DOING?!” more than once, I actually got sucked in and found myself reading, and reading and wanting to get to the end because even though I’ve read it before I couldn’t remember the details of what had happened.

So if you’ve never read a historical romance novel, the formula is pretty much the same. Strong-willed female is forced to live under the thumb of an even stronger-willed, barbarian-type guy. They fight, they have sex (at times some pretty graphic sex actually, probably why I read these kinds of books in he first place ;) , they fall in love, they get married and they live happily ever after.

This book was just as quirky as all the rest, not taking itself too seriously, and interesting enough that I’ll probably read the 2nd and 3rd in the series as well.

Two thumbs up!

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Daycare and moving and mini-vans, oh my!

Yesterday was the boys’ first full day at their new daycare. My mom helped me pay for these first few weeks and I think it’s tainting the way I feel about them even going.

First let me say that they both did well yesterday. Only a little crying from the peanut, and she had a tough time putting him down for his naps, but once asleep he slept well. And the preshus, who has been to daycare before, did well all day. She mentioned his short attention span and that he was a bit aggressive with the other boys, but in general she thinks his behaviour will improve with time as he gets accustomed to being there. I hope so.

Meanwhile since we don’t have money to pay I’m feeling some extreme guilt and stress over the fact that I’m sending them there every day. All feelings, of course, are related to the fact that my mother laid a huge guilt trip on me when she gave me the cheque for the sitter a few days ago. She made me feel about three inches tall over the fact that we didn’t plan properly to account for this huge bill we have to deal with. Her fall back accusation is why can’t we do everything we need to take care of our children like she did when she had to raise three children on her own. She’s a nurse and was always able to pull extra shifts in order to make ends meet. Well, extra shifts aren’t an option for the hubs and I, we’re just thankful for the jobs we have. And getting better paying jobs and/or second jobs has been pretty much impossible thus far, but we’re still trying. I’m not making excuses, I know we’ve screwed this up royally by ignoring the problem for as long as we have. This daycare bill is going to break us. Everything would be fine without it. It’s just so expensive!!!!

Our next steps are to move to a cheaper place. A smaller apartment with utilities included that I’m hoping will save us at least $500 a month in expenses. Of course we can’t afford to hire movers this time around so that’s going to be a massive pain in the ass. I’m also researching trading in the minivan we got last year, but we still owe so much on it I’m not sure a trade-in would be worth it. So far from what I’ve found out we’d end up with a seriously downgraded used car (which I expected) but only an $80 per month savings. That doesn’t seem like a smart move to me. But I’ll keep researching it, check what other dealerships are willing to offer.

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Project 52 ~ Week 14 ~ Foolin’ Around!

Foolin’ Around!

 And look! 4 teef!


 

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And so it begins . . . again . . . or . . . whatever

You know those moments in your life when everything changes and nothing is the same again, ever. A crossroads of sorts. Well, that’s where I am. Where my family is. Our old lives ended yesterday, and started today.

Three things:

  1. The kids started daycare today
  2. I go back to work next week
  3. We’re in a serious financial situation because we have to pay for daycare and are now forced to make some very real changes. Changes we’ve been (stupidly) avoiding.

It’s going to be a crazy stressful ride, but of course I’ll be blogging the whole thing.

A new chapter in our lives.

In my life.

*BIG sigh*

I guess I should probably get off the couch.

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Wordless Wednesday ~ The Project 52 Week 13 Edition

Clearly I’ve been slacking on my photography projects, and I need to get back to them to keep my brain from descending into darkness. So…here…

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silly things in the media > Alicia Silverstone *gasp* feeding her baby

I’m generally not one to comment on my blog about the silly things that happen in the media. But lately there have been a few things about parenting and the choices people make in parenting their children that have pretty much just pissed me off, and this is as good a place as any to vent my frustrations because a) the hubs tunes out when I complain to him since he’s the only person around I can vent to, and b) venting on twitter is hard to do in 140 characters.

That said, today’s rant is about the video that circulating around about Alicia Silverstone feeding food to her son directly from her mouth. The general consensus out there from the media reports that I’ve read, as well as comments from people in my twitter timeline is that she’s insane and that feeding your child that way is gross.

*BIG SIGH*

Might I remind people that before blenders and jarred baby food, and most certainly back in the day and back home (wherever back home is for you, for me it’s Nig.eria, where my family comes from) mothers for generations upon generations, back to the dawn of man (yah, that’s right I said it, the dawn of man!) have been feeding their babies with pre-chewed food. How the heck else is a baby supposed to eat anything when transitioning from breast milk to solid food when a blender isn’t handy and the food isn’t way over-cooked?!? I don’t know if you’ve ever tried it, but mashing foods such as meat or even some vegetables, is hard to do with a fork if they aren’t cooked to a mushy pulp. I’ve tried it. It’s stupid.

I’m still in the process of weaning my second son and if, on occasion, I want to broaden his baby food pallet by giving him something to eat from my plate, of course I’m gonna chew it up first before I feed it to him. I don’t want him to choke on a piece of celery or carrot from my salad. I want him to have a piece of the tasty steak I’m eating for dinner. No I’m not going to stop my meal to throw a bite of food into the baby bullet. That’s silly and impractical. And impossible if we’re eating a meal outside of our home by the way. And honestly, when I was a child, this is how I had my first taste of things like beef and chicken and goat (YES goat. It’s tender and flavourful and a staple meat in many parts of the world, google it, then get over it.) from my mother’s mouth, and even (*insert double gasp here*) from an aunt or other female member of my family who happened to be at mealtime with us. I grew up just fine.

And so will my sons.

And so will Alicia’s.

So joe/jane public, get off her damn back about it.

*sheesh*

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Iiiiit’s Mat Leave Daaaayyyyy!!!!! :D :D :D :/

You know that movie Groundhog Day where Bill Murray’s character wakes up every morning in this small town in the middle of nowhere every day and it’s the exact same day? And no matter what he does or wants to do the day plays out the same way each. and. every. day?

That’s what being on mat leave feels like to me.

 Was that first picture taken yesterday? Or last Thursday? Could be either. I don’t know. Maybe that second one was yesterday. Hmmm…. It’s all a blur.

Each morning, get up with the kids, before I’ve had enough sleep of course, then diapers/potty, then toddler breakfast, then “wawwee“*, then clean kitchen, then baby’s breakfast, then my breakfast, then toddler potty break, then toddler lunch, then breast feed baby, then naptime, then my lunch and “free time”**, then naptime’s over, then baby lunch, then daddy’s home, then cook dinner, then eat dinner, then baby’s dinner, then bedtime, then get woken once by baby for middle of the night feed***, then get woken up (too early) by one kid or another, rinse, repeat, everyday, for 1 year.

And yes, the days get broken up with a different events like a different movie or kid’s show, or crayons **** or playdoh****, or a walk to the mall, to the park, or even just around the block. Or the weekend or holiday when the hubs is home and I get help with the kids, but still, it feels like everyday is the same.

Happy Groundhog Mat Leave Day!

*Yes, I let my kids watch tv. Lots of it too. Most times it’s the only thing keeping them from going batshit crazy during the day. It also gives me free time to clean, cook and eat without having them underfoot. Literally. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve stepped on the baby or walked into the silent toddler standing secretly behind me.
**And by “free time” I mean just enough time to get myself something hot to eat, but not actually eat it hot  because inevitably one or both kids wake up just as I’m putting that first mouthful in. Honestly, I can spend 5 minutes getting myself something to eat, or an hour doing stuff around the house, but the second I try to eat something, they wake up.
***Seriously, when is he gonna cut these out?!? If I get up with him in the middle of the night, he won’t go down again until I bf him. If the hubs gets up with him, he goes back down without needing to be fed. Guess how often the hubs gets up with him?
****which the baby regularly eats so these special events don’t last long.
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thank you for the lessons

Dear Universe,

I’ve learned some hard lessons this week. Life has changed….for the better. It doesn’t seem better right now, but you’ve assured me it is, and I trust you.

Thank you for the lessons, and for the chance to make things better.

Love, Me.

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In other news, I’ve booked an appointment with my 2nd ever personal assistant /personal organizing client for today. I’m very excited at the prospect of a) doing what I love and 2) getting paid for it. With a little hard work and dedication, this can be my new part-time thing. Who’da thunk it?

Also, the hubs suggested that I take a bookkeeping course to enhance my professional skills. I’d thought of this in the past, but now, with his support and encouragement, I think I’m gonna do it. Can’t hurt, right?

I wonder if my full-time job people would reimburse me for the classes? There’s a tuition reimbursement program in place at work for employees who take courses that help improve their job skills. I wonder if they’d see bookkeeping as a job skill for my current job? I’ll definitely look into that.

Meanwhile, the peanut turned 11 months old yesterday. All drinking out of a straw and everything standing up on his own not holding on to anything cause he’s a genius like that. We don’t need no stinkin’ bottles! That’s what he’s saying with that sly smile of his.

Love him!

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I hear what you’re saying, I do.

Dear Universe,

I hear what you’re saying. I do.

Please. No more.

I’ll be good. I promise.

Just give me a chance.

Yours truly,

PreshusMe

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Up, Sideways, Not Down.

I know I’ve said this before, but searching for a new job makes me feel like a complete idiot. It’s so demoralizing not to get any bites on my resume submissions. Not one. I’ve been looking for work for over a month now and the only phone call I got was for a position that paid less than half what I currently earn, in the field that I’m trying to get out of. Not good.

I know I can do the jobs that I’m applying for. Otherwise I wouldn’t apply for them. And I know my resume is great, I’ve had professional help with it. Yet, no bites. And every personal lead I’ve come across hasn’t gotten me anywhere either.

I know that it will take months for me to find a new job, but it’s so hard to keep my spirits up about the whole process when I feel like I’m getting beat down.

Maybe I’m being overly dramatic about the whole situation. It’s just that the jobs I’m applying for I know I’d be perfect for! I just never get the chance to tell anyone that because no one is calling me for interviews. Is there something about my resume that is screwing this all up for me? Is my competition so spectacularly awesome that I have zero chance against them? What?

I want to move up in my career, not down. I can’t afford to go down. Even a sideways move to a new company would be awesome. But nope. Nothing.

Why isn’t anyone calling?

So discouraging.

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